DO NOTHING TO FIND PEACE?

We've all been there.  Worrying that we are wearing the right thing, being seen to be "right".

Mankind has evolved over the years but many of the basic emotions are still there, coming to the surface daily in situations which were not what they were originally intended for.  Mankind is in an unnatural environment.  Even sitting is bad for the back!

You may have read that you could just change your life, do something else or dress how you want to dress.  That is easy for someone who doesn't have to pay the bills and build a life.  We can't all throw in the towel and go and live in the countryside.  There wouldn't be much countryside left if we did.

You are faced with the Urban Jungle.  You can't change it but you can change how you feel about it.  You want to be successful, there is nothing wrong with that.  You are proud of what you have achieved  You have worked for it, you deserve it.

You also deserve an inner peace and serenity which may have had to be set aside in the pursuance of your career.  You can have both!

Are you comfortable with your life being "what is expected" or do you crave something which feels elusive and you are too afraid to let that little voice speak?  What you fear might be that it would talk you into some great "break for freedom".  What it might be happy with is that you address the situation and find ways to "have your cake the eat it too".

Etiquette and code of dress evolved for a reason.  To make sure everyone was comfortable in each other's company.  Like the rules of dinner. But, within the bounds of what is acceptable it is acceptable to express yourself in the choice within what is acceptable.  Then you might be more able to accept what you have to deal with.  But, the only way you will have personal power there is to choose these things for yourself and decide what you do and don't like.  Then reflect it subtly in what you wear even if it is cufflinks when they are not worn much now or some other "focus" of your individuality.  You know what it means, nobody else needs to.

What I am offering with what has affectionately been referred to as ChatAJT is the opportunity to have a restful break with the opportunity to talk about what is worrying you.  It is your time for YOU and only you.  It may be a chance to discuss these feelings and others.

Wolf, Bull and Bear

The pressure of constant need to get results brings out the "wolf" hunter.  But that also cultivates natural instincts which are and have to be stifled.

That "prison" is in the mind but it can feel physical when the daily routine is constantly dictated by others.  Perhaps you crave the peace of sleeping without the need for an alarm clock.  Just one day a week to have the opportunity to take your watch off and just do what you feel you want to do when you want to do it.  However expensive that watch may be it still either aids you or dictates to you.  Perhaps a good game of a racket sport with a friend and a few beers is enough to sate the situation.  It is all very personal.  These are coping mechanisms and little "open doors to enjoyment" which are valuable.

Covid changed a lot of things and a lot of ways of life.  Many more people are now working at home and that can be stressful in itself in subtle ways.  Where there would be the daily trip into the unknown to go and earn the day's money many now just slip into another room.  This may save the underground but spending all the days of the year with family can be stressful in itself.  However much you love them!  

Personal Space

When I first came to Spain I did think about setting up a space where people could come, lock away their mobile phones and just be themselves in a controlled environment.  In the future this may still happen but the question was whether it was really needed.  With the advent of booking sites it is really easy to book a weekend away at a place which is remote and isolted just to get that bit of peace.  If that is what you want and you want to have that space to talk to someone that may be the ideal time to buy some talk time.  You can then choose the ideal place for yourself but have the security of having that someone to talk to at a set time for the time you want to talk with nobody disturbing you.